Wanting Another Child
Time and time again I have heard women share with me that they want another baby. With deeper exploration, what sometimes emerges is that more than wanting another baby, they want their existing child to have a sibling.
Big difference.
They are not necessarily really seeking the experience of pregnancy, giving birth or focusing even more of their energy in mothering. This is about providing a playmate or companion for their singleton. When they cast an eye into the future, what is motivating them to add to the family is an image of their son or daughter being alone in the world.
Important distinction here especially when it comes to your fertility vibration.
Because if your motivation to have a baby is coming from an effort to ensure that your child has a company in childhood or later years it is not that your being is really seeking motherhood again.
Not Secondary Infertility
If this is true for a woman and she is having difficulty conceiving or having a healthy pregnancy, then Secondary Infertility is an inappropriate diagnosis.
There is nothing wrong. She may not be getting pregnant. But neither does she want to at a deeper level of her being.
Nothing broken.
What is happening is that her body is matching and mirroring what she is really aligned with in that authentic place within that knows that she is not responsible for everything.
This is not infertility. It is just a healthy body revealing the truth of what a woman really wants and what she is really aligned with.
Because the field of fertility has been dominated by a male understanding of the world and a patriarchal view of the creative process, this is not really understood yet.
However, a woman’s motivations, expectations, feelings, emotions, life purpose and path have a huge impact on whether or not a treatment will be successful and whether or not she will have her baby.
As we create a more compassionate world together in which each of us surrounds ourselves with people who share our values and vision, the illusion that parents need to provide companions for their children will disappear.
This new way of being has already begun. If you are a woman concerned about your child having loving, authentic, positive connections with others you might like to start visualising your child being surrounded by that support now.
How you feel matters. Your deepest desires are important. By honouring your own truth, your child will be able to express his or hers and in this way create an environment in which he or she will really thrive. For more on understanding your emotions in the creative process I invite you listen to my audio below.
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