Fertility Evolution: Why So Much Judgement About Women Over 50 and Over 60 Who Want To Have a Baby

In the past stories about a woman who want to have a baby over the age of 50 or 60 would have produced raised eyebrows at the very least. Why is that?

Beliefs About Fertility Over 50

Well for starters, most of us believe that a woman cannot have a baby at that point in life. Lets get real here. The truth is that many women of 35 are experiencing huge pressure to reproduce because of that loud biological clock ticking away in the background.

For those who want a baby, turning 40 feels like the fertility death knell as they hope against hope that maybe they might be one of the lucky ones to defy biology. This is often true even for women using IVF or other assisted fertility methods. In short, there is a collective consensus that it is almost impossible for a woman over 50 or over 60 to have a baby.

Concerns For The Baby

Another reason for elevating eyebrows is due to our habit of judging what is unfamiliar. And at the moment, there are people who think that having a baby over 50 or 60 is not only impossible but inappropriate also.

Questions that guide these views are ‘How can a woman be a good mother at this age?’ or ‘Is it fair on a child to have an older mother?’. And again, prevailing (old paradigm) wisdom judged as selfish a more mature woman for wanting to bring life into the world

Concerns For The Mother

To add to the mix, there are those (often mothers) who wonder if a woman is crazy to even entertain the idea of having a baby at this later stage in life. They have lived through the experience themselves and found it challenging at a much younger age. What produces the eyebrow raising in this instances is the question ‘Does this woman really know the work involved in have a young child?’

Fertility Evolution

All of these responses, however loving and legitimate they may be, come from the old paradigm and our old understanding of the creative process and more specifically the connection between mother and child.

In the old paradigm our attention was firmly focused on what is visible and measurable and from there we concluded that if most women stopped having babies before 45 then this is what is good, right, possible and appropriate.

We were not at all aware that each of us has a unique purpose and path and we had little or no understanding that the dance between a mother and child begins long before conception. This is changing now in the fertility evolution.

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