If you’re reading this, than chances are you’re feeling the pressure of being a social castaway due to the fact that of a pregnancy or your status as a single parent. You feel the pressure of others not comprehending your monetary scenario, your obligations to sick kids, your loss of your dreams, your unpredictability of where to turn. You feel alone, separated and unaccepted by anyone around you.
I have actually existed. I got pregnant in1990 At that time, society had a ‘you played, you pay’ mindset towards teen age parents. My high school didn’t permit pregnant teenagers to continue at the school. The regional public high school needed that we move to an adult education program so that we didn’t affect the other teenagers. My college teachers hesitated to work with me on finishing research assignments.
One manager told me I could not work for him unless I used a ring on my left finger to ‘pretend’ I was wed since he wasn’t sure how the customer’s would like an unwed moms and dad. Another supervisor declined to allow me to be promoted since he presumed I was a ‘slut’ given that I was a single parent. My good friends unexpectedly didn’t have time for me.
People’s attitudes ranged from ‘slut’ to ‘you did it to yourself’ to actually informing me ‘you’re a social outcast and I can’t accept you.’
I was alone, terrified, baffled, and specific that I wished to raise this child. It wasn’t going to be an easy road, I knew that. But this was my child. I was keeping her.
Raising a kid is difficult – monetary pressures, time off work, protecting and offering them, clothes, shots, physicians consultations, day care, school, play dates, teacher conferences, the list goes on and on. When you add to that the rejection of not just the people you normally leaned on for support in the difficult times; however also, employers, strangers, religious groups, and many others, the job quickly seems insurmountable. You get overwhelmed seemingly having to combat on every side just to stay afloat.
Single parenting is ending up being more accepted in society, however for the young single moms and dad, the isolation and judgmentalism of society is still as strong as ever. The result is so strong that it is uncommon to ever satisfy an adult woman who admits to being a teen parent. Having actually grown enough to complimentary themselves from that negative stereotype and the isolation, few want to admit to their status ever once again.
However young parents belong to our society. There are countless them, and we are doing an oppression to them and to ourselves by not stepping up and assisting them through the challenging times we each faced. We can support and love each other. We can teach and learn from each other. We can end the isolation, provide support, knowledge, motivation, and while doing so, improve the lives of the single moms and dads and their children. This, in turn, creates a much better life and society for us all.
It takes a lot to raise a child and you can do it, with assistance and aid from those who have actually existed. I hope this book brings you encouragement along the way.
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