Your pregnancy will be so much more enjoyable if your husband is more involved. If he is feeling left out or simply doesn’t know how to involve himself, here are 4 tips that might just help.
1. Encourage your husband to join you at doctor visits
Pregnancy shouldn’t just involve you, your husband needs to be involved as well.
I know sometimes men feel awkward about participating and getting involved, but help them to understand that pregnancy is a process and by his taking part in understanding and learning about the different stages of pregnancy you can both have a much more rewarding journey. So take it together.
2. Discuss with your husband his thoughts, feelings and ideas about your pregnancy.
Sometimes men can be shy about birth and the changes women go through with pregnancy. But also some men are just oblivious to some of the things that can occur like what it feels like to be kicked or experience fetal hiccups, etc. Let him in on what’s going on physically and help him to understand what those thing actually feel like.
But don’t forget about the emotional elements of being pregnant. Your pregnancy isn’t going to be fun and games all the time. You may feel irritable, short tempered, tired, cranky and hormonal.
It’s going to help a lot if you can talk with your husband about these moods, letting him know that they will happen and to please be patient. Sometimes your husband just needs a little nudge, so discuss what’s actually going on with your pregnancy.
3. Start Discussing your parenting styles.
Discussion and involvement can help you both learn about parenting. There’s a lot to think about when having a new baby, and parenting styles are something you’ll want to think about now while you’re waiting for baby’s arrival.
My husband and I use to talk about the parenting styles our own parents had, and interestingly enough, we came up with a lot of things we knew we didn’t want to do with our own children:-
Discussing as much as you can during this time of waiting gets a lot of ideas and thoughts out in the open. You may find that you’ll disagree on some things but if by talking them out you’ll make things a lot easier when it comes time to put your parenting styles to work.
4. Do Your baby planning together
It’s fun to shop for baby clothes and accessories and decorate baby’s room, but do these things together. In fact, I always found that two heads are better than one. Especially during pregnancy when new moms sometimes get what is called pregnancy brain (a condition pregnant women get that is characterized by short-term memory loss or forgetfulness).
Doing these things together also helps you bond as new parents. This is a time to cherish and enjoy one another. Make these moments memorable by planning and discussing.
It’s certainly not possible for your husband to be an involved in your pregnancy as you are but use these tips to try to get him more involved.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of giving him a nudge. After all, it’s his baby too so the more he realizes what an amazing miracle has been placed before you both, the more he’ll just naturally want to become more involved.
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