Sexy, Passionate and Fertile?
Do you connect to any of these words? Are they even linked?
Before I began on that path of infant making, attractive and enthusiastic didn’t seem to have much to do with fertility.
And After That, with ever-increasing awareness of my cycles and having sex at the ‘right time’, any thread of association that might have been there in my unconscious mind was quickly severed.
Rather the opposite unfolded as I continued to try to have an infant and skilled loss instead. Sexiness and enthusiasm wandered into a remote memory and all that mattered (in my mind) was reproduction. I wasn’t utilizing the word recreation. But that is what it came down to.
By the time I had my 3rd miscarriage (Julianito), I was absolutely exhausted and entirely diminished.
Attempting To Get Pregnant
I chose that was it. I was never going to ‘attempt’ once again.
I hated the energy of ‘trying’ due to the fact that implicit in that was a fear of failure. And after much soul-searching, I declared to deep space that if this is what it takes to be a mom then I was not readily available.
My vision has always been of spiritual family in which everyone is flourishing. And I found myself living the opposite.
I was not growing.
I was trying.
Big difference.
And it wasn’t sexy let me tell you. Or passionate. When I let the Universe understand that I was done with trying and was checking out of ‘suffering with infertility’ land things started to move.
Instead of feeling totally powerless I was altering the rules of the game.
What if my partner does not wish to be with me any longer? He was clearly made for parenthood.
What if I am risking my last possibilities of having an infant? I was 37.
I didn’t care.
It might not continue the method I was. If the worth and meaning of my life was to be figured out by my capability to have a baby then I was leaving that train. I began listening to my womanly wisdom instead of the patriarchal concepts about what a woman ‘ought to’ be.
I was willing to take the threat.
And it worked. Everything altered as soon as I claimed back my power and worth simply the method I was. I fell for life once again. I feel in love with me. And not long after, I became pregnant naturally with my lovely, healthy twin women.
I wasn’t trying to have a baby however I understood immediately that this time was going to be different!
In a world that has been shaped by patriarchy and male worths and understanding of how life works, we have actually forgotten about feminine knowledge and her vital role in success.

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