When we think about tubal reversal surgery we often think of the woman or the “patient” having the surgery. What we seldom think about is the husband and the range of emotions that he has.
Recently reading a tubal reversal husbands story caused some thinking to happen. How the tubal reversal journey changes him as well as his partner. He worries about all of the same things that the wife does. They may not express it the same way, but they certainly have feelings and emotions that can be quite startling.
One of the biggest things is the worry when a man’s spouse goes into surgery. Although they can be told that everything will be fine the fear is still there. As they wheel his spouse away for the surgery room there are many thoughts taking place. Will she actually be okay? Is this surgery really worth it if it means something happening to her? I can’t imagine my life without her. The minutes tick by like hours. And finally he receives word that she is out of surgery and doing just fine. He breathes a deep sigh of relief.
As he is escorted to see his wife he just wants to see for himself that she is okay. She may be a bit pale and still sleeping. He wants to talk to her. Having just woken from surgery she may be groggy and not quite “with it”. This, of course, can cause alarm in the most masculine of men.
Once his spouse is released back to the hotel room he has a bit of fear. He will be the only one with her and this is unnerving. What if something goes wrong? Yes, he has the surgeons and nurses phone numbers, it isn’t making him feel any better right at the moment. He is now in charge of his spouses care and this is truly a role reversal.
After she is back home and getting into the swing of things life begins to return to normal. This husband is now beginning to relax a bit and realizes just what his wife has gone through to have a child with him. He has a new view on things.
Time passes and a baby is born. As the children grow he remembers how this all started. He has projects that take place and the children help. This is the family he has asked for and always wanted.
It is important to remember that men go through the tubal reversal journey just as women do. Men may not show feelings the same way as women, no one can deny those feelings aren’t there. Men have their dreams answered too.
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